Finding positive ways to deal with parents who move away will help you with your own metal and emotional health. Whether young or old, parents move away for different reasons. Between 33 and 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, according to Kid’s Health, and aged parents may also require the 24-hour care of a nursing home. Applying several strategies to help you cope with the move of a parent gives you a pro-active plan of action for keeping your relationship strong.
1). Talk about your feelings. Express your thoughts and feelings to your parents, siblings, family members and friends. Find common ground with your parents, for example, when discussing the move. Both you and your parents may feel angry or sad, for example. Expressing that all parties feel this way helps keep everyone open and understanding of one another’s feelings.
2). Employ contrasting thinking. Think on a daily basis about the positive meaning of the move. Remember, for example, that while your parents are far away, at least they are not deceased — or in a position where you can never see them again. Contrasting thinking helps provide you with a healthy perspective about your parents’ move.
3). Visit the new residence with your parent or parents. Identify positive aspects about the home and neighborhood or facility. Point out enjoyable things and mutual interests you can do with your parent at her new location. Finding mutual interests solidifies the partnership you and your parent have in making the move a positive event.
4). Exchange personal items with your parents. Display items your parents gave you in your room or home to boost the feeling of their spirit and presence. Pack a special box of personal items — special to you and your parents — for your parents’ own keepsakes. Ask the parents to display the packed items at their new residence in a similar manner.
5). Plan a follow-up visit before the move. Schedule a time you and your parents will physically visit with one another. Scheduling a visit before they move will help keep you calm about their initial absence, and give you something to look forward to following the move.
6). Communicate with your parents several times a week. Call or write your parents to stay informed of what is going on in each other’s’ lives. Ask your parents for updates on how they are settling in and stay open to requests of things you can do to help them adjust. Always tell your parents how much your love them and that, no matter the distance, you are always here for them. Embrace identical sentiments shared by parents with you.
7). Call Child Helpline toll free telephone 1280 or visit a counselor on a weekly basis if you find yourself struggling with the move. A family counselor will help provide you with perspective on the move, and give you additional action strategies for coping with the move. Continue with counseling until you feel confident in handling the life change own your own.
From POPZONE Online News